I have been on one wild ride over the past few months.

The sun making it’s transit though the natal chart has really been highlighting the unseen and making them seen. When the planet Venus was in the 12th house, conjunct the sun, I was able to see what we know as “hidden enemies”. I learned what hidden enemies really mean is “friends whom hide their jealousy”.

Hidden enemies also means subtle jealousy. When the planet Mercury is in the 12th house, this shows a person who is gossiping behind the backs of others. It’s people secretly keeping tabs on others. It’s people who indirectly talk. They say things like, ” so and so wasn’t there for me”. Or “People like to xyz”. They’re really referring to YOU. That’s mercury in the 12th house. In other words, you’re the target of envy when mercury transits your 12th house.

Mercury in the 12th house is also passive aggression.

So, transiting mercury, Venus and the sun was in my 12th house. And boy did I see people’s true colors!

The first short story is about a woman that I felt I had a good rapport with. She is a tarot reader and astrologer. I thought she could be trusted, I saw how knowledgeable she was, and I liked how direct she was. I had hoped she’d be around for awhile. Well, I was wrong. I had a consultation with her and what came out started the jealousy. She began to keep tabs on me through my social media. I caught her and her besties networking with a gentlemen that that spoke ill of privately. When I caught that, that was when the ish really hit the fan. She got mad at me for catching her being fake and phony. The thing is, she was just that the whole time. Fake and phony. I just didn’t see it until those planets reached my 12th house. She tries to bait me into traps to be passive aggressive towards me. I don’t allow it, cause I “see” it coming. I think that if she has a problem, she has my number and she can call so we can talk things out like grown women. And because she refuses to call, for her the matter will be ongoing. For me, I’m moving forward.

Second short story is about my so-called friend of over 30 years. So, my sibling and his wife took a trip for a week. And left me to watch over their 18yr old. Before they left, my darling nephew programmed my number to go straight to voicemail. I knew that because of the way it half rang. I figured my nephew was up to no good. On top of that, he waited until flights was booked to take a few days off from work. Well, keeping my aunty duties, I called the little booger and went straight to voicemail. He called back and had a bad attitude. A BAD attitude! I figured he only called to prevent me fr going to the house. So, at 2AM, aunty popped up at the house. And he was in bed with a boy. Cuddled up. I took a picture and decided not to pull a belt out and swing it! I’m sure his parents knew about his sexual preference. I did not nor did I care. For me, it was more about him sneaking around to have sex. And I figured his parents did NOT have a heart to heart conversation with him, and made sure he was aware and safe. Physically and emotionally. While the cat looked at me confused, I left the house. A few days later I called again to only go straight to voicemail. My nephew had no idea I had a picture of him and his boyfriend cuddled up. He called me back with a very nasty attitude. It was then that I realized when teenagers start having sex, they have a nasty a$$ attitude, for some reason. I hung the phone up on my nephew and decided that I don’t have to take $hit from a teenager that’s not mines. I called my friend for over 30yrs and told him what was going on. He misheard what I said about hanging up on nephew. I felt through the phone his smile. At what he perceived as something bad happening to me. He heard “My nephew hung up on me”. When I said the opposite. It was then that I realized my so-called-friend was jealous of me and always have been. I’m just now seeing it. When a person wants something “bad” to happen to you, or they gloat and what they perceive as “bad” it’s because they are jealous and there’s a secret competition. If I wasn’t paying attention to the subtly, I would not have seen it. I felt the smile through the phone. I heard the happiness in his tone. I felt his energy basically jump up and down for joy. Now, a 30yr friendship is down the drain.

Next long story short is my so called friend for 15+ yrs. About 3 years ago, he began to bash attractive women. And he would only do it during the summer. And I thought, the timing was odd. Because it was never during the holidays. Just the summer. Initially I just thought he was mad because he wanted a girlfriend and didn’t have one. I would simply get off of the phone with him. Never did. I think he was really mad at me and was directing his anger at me indirectly. So, I figured I’d leave him to his own misery. Well, before my trip to the Virgin Islands, he got jealous of my trip. I felt the energy. He began to bash attractive women again. Basically, saying we need to be stopped. Attractive women should stop getting compliments. We should get a therapist, and how we don’t have respect for men. I had something to say that time. I told him men should give us something to respect and to stop being mad that we don’t want a bum. Men have bad attitudes and need a therapist, and certain men are angry because attractive women won’t lower their standards to give a ugly bum access. You see, he was mad at ME because I would not give HIM access to ME. He thought he could gaslight me, deceive me, and break me mentally into being with HIM. He’s very ugly in his face. He has anger issues, he is not transparent when communicating, he doesn’t respect women, his credit score is under 400 and I never even knew that was possible. He has been to jail several times. He doesn’t even have a learner’s permit. Nor a passport. Nor his own place to live. He’s over 50 years old with absolutely nothing to offer to any woman. Whether modern or traditional. Not to mention, he was recently arrested for trying to scam a bank for money, trying to maintain a high maintenance attractive woman. He almost lost his job with the city over it! That woman spends money quicker than he can earn it. But he’s basically buying her. When the money is gone, so is she and he knows it. And I know his anger will flare up and he’ll say “Ain’t love enough?”. When he met her he led with his job title aka money. He knew what she was there for from the beginning. Which surprises me because women are and have been out earning men. Women have been doing the very things that men use to do, for themselves. And it kinda eliminates the need for a man. Produce, provide, and protect. On top of that, women are now deciding to NOT have kids.. The focus of most women today is on education and stability. Not marriage. Not kids. Needles to say, he called me being extremely indirect. He was upset with me because I did not take time out of my schedule to appear in court for that dumb a$$ decision he made to scam a bank. Well, after I had major surgery he was not at the hospital to visit me. Even when I was released to my home he never showed up. Not even on his day off from work. I didn’t see him until a year later. At this point, I’m tired of him being jealous about me traveling. And I’m tired of him indirectly venting at me as an attractive woman, not giving him, a ugly bum, access. He has got to go! Men don’t marry anyone that they don’t want to be with. Nor will I. It’s the audacity and entitlement for me!

I learned that there are some ugly men who actively want to verbally break attractive women’s self confidence and force us into humbling ourselves to them just so that they can have access to us. That’s sick and emotionally violent!

I figured, one last blow to his ego for being emotionally violent and then I will block him. I think he should be treated the exact way he treats himself. With zero transparency and a breakdown in communication. Period.

All of this has caused me to reevaluate the red flags and green flags of a good friend. Male or female. I thought about what cultivates healthy friendships. And for me it starts with integrity because most character traits fall under that umbrella. Next is a person’s ability to communicate from a place of vulnerability without fear. I often times tell people I’m the easiest person on the planet to talk to simply because I don’t judge anyone. I tell them, if they have an issue with me or something I said, something I did, come and talk to me. And don’t assume anything.

And… they don’t. For various reasons. When I’m ready to make new “friends”, I’m looking for adults. Not childish adults. A jealous person would never be fit to be a friend of mines and what I bring to the relationship. One thing I noticed about me, is that I come with the gift of increasing people’s income. The next thing I come with is trust. People now have to earn it over time.

Secret competition is a problem. Jealousy is a problem. And those are just the tip of the iceberg of a red flag 🚩 for me.

Combine poverty, competition, jealousy and a fear of scarcity, and you’ve got one hater on your hands!

The part I take accountability for is that I say way too much. (Like in this blog). And in me speaking my truth, it causes people to have something to be jealousy about. It gives people something to compete with me about. I realized, if I limited what I say, they actually would have no idea. Of anything. They would need me to talk and they only place they can get that from is ME. New friends and I typically never have any mutual friends in common. 99% of the time. So I have decided to limit what I say.

I have also been putting into practice, not being provoked or pressured by the opinions of others. Self control. Emotional control. Which means I have to call people out of what they think is hidden. And I will certainly enjoy that!

So, pay attention to the subtleties of people. Replay conversations in your mind. Replay their actions. Don’t give anyone the benefit of the doubt because people are crystal clear of their intentions and the things that they are doing. Don’t buy into a person who sounds like a victim. They are not. Hear the parts of the story that they are strategically leaving out, and question it. And lastly, don’t allow anyone to gaslight you.

Astrologically speaking, this Leo season will be a prerequisite of Pluto in Aquarius in 2023. Leo naturally opposes Aquarius. Journal about your life lessons during Leo season. You will need to refer back to them for strategies in 2023. Pluto also naturally rules the 8th house in the natal chart. Sudden endings of karmic contract cycles. This means traumas from your childhood will be brought back to your remembrance through other people whom have entered areas of your life that you had not welcomed them into. They are going to cause you the type of pain that changes you forever. You’re going to have to think strategically about how you handle people. And know that distractions are going to happen. People are always people-ing. But never neglect your character!

We are all going to learn some serious lessons about boundaries and individuality. A celebrity once said, “Stand up”, and we all will see exactly what that means in 2023.

Learn everything you can about Pluto, the 8th house, Aquarius, and Uranus. You’re going to need that information.

XOXO

A Healthy Parent