This is a tale of lovers or friends

I have had my males friends for decades. Some for thirty years. We’ve always talked about the dynamics of relationships until someone got married.

I’m one of those pretty women that is always single. I dated here and there, but rarely had a boyfriend. And when I did, it never lasted more than a few months.

None of my male friends had an issue with me dating. Some even seemed protective of me. At least that was how I saw it.

And if you have Neptune in the seventh house of your natal chart, you know the challenges that comes with that placement. Let alone the challenges of the seventh house being in opposition to the first house.

This aspect means in any relationship, albeit friends, family, coworker, or romantic, people don’t have the best intentions towards a person with Neptune in the seventh house. On top of that, we don’t see the good parts of ourselves. But other people do. What would take someone else a moment to know or realize, we need time to “see it”. This placement blinds your blind spots. And it teaches you to lean not on your own understanding. You have to trust your own instincts and intuition. You have to realize how to tap into that energy to begin with.

Also, we attract users, abusers, vagabonds, drug addicts and/or alcoholics. Sometimes, we can attract narcissistic people. People only want to associate themselves with a Neptune seventh house placement person, for what they can get out of us.

So, I have this one male friend for about fifteen years. Initially when we talked about the wiles of relationships, it was relatable. And I was in agreement. Simply because I experienced very similar things with women as my “friends”, while he experienced these ups and downs with the women that he dated. I attracted them as “A friend”, and he attracted them as love interests.

Recently, we had a conversation. And I had been trying to get him out of his old and outdated mindset. In which he’s too stubborn to let go of. And I have tried to put him in positions to see women have made small changes. They are trying to do better.

Women have gotten to a place of acknowledgment, accountability, therapy sessions, shadow work, and healing. Along with educating themselves, earning more money, home ownership, and making better decisions for themselves overall. Yet my male friend doesn’t see that.

He doesn’t want to come into the circles that I’m in to see for himself…

He had a female bashing session one day. Talking about how women don’t dress like a “girl” but dress for comfort instead. Women buy super expensive handbags and have bad money management skills. Women don’t know how to hold a conversation. Women wait until they have several children then decide to desire marriage. Women overlook the men in their friend zone. And men date outside of their preferences because it’s easier…

That is his list of grievances…

Every year, around this time, he has the same exact grievances. Last year, I felt that he was just mad because he wanted a woman but they don’t want him.

He’s almost sixty years old and lives with a roommate. His credit score is under 500. And I never knew it could be so low. He dropped out of college during the associate degree program. And still owe money for a degree he never finished. He doesn’t even have a learner’s permit. Nor does he have a passport.

I also recognize that he is a very traditional man whom wants a traditional marriage. Even though he’s so old, he still desires to have his first child. But only within a marriage. He wants the woman to be a stay at home mother and wife while he takes care of all the bills.

The problem is he has no home to put her in. His credit can’t get it. He can’t drive to a doctor’s appointment. And he get travel to another country.

His good traits are: He’s very supportive. He’s financially literate, he has common sense, family oriented, and protective.

Nevertheless, once my “friend” got finished venting, it dawned on me. That he was mad at me. Mad at me for not giving him a chance.

And every year, something triggers him into this anger, and that’s his way of bashing me. Attempting to make me “feel” something I will never feel.

At the end of my day, I will get a cat 🐈, dog 🐩 and a gold fish 🐠 before I give him a chance. I know his dark side. And I don’t need to go to jail in order to know jail is not a place for me. He’s one that you have to stick your foot 🦶 up his….

His temper will make you think, his life or yours…

What he needs to do is date on his level. He loves incredibly attractive women. Nothing wrong with that. Everyone likes eye candy. Yet he is nowhere near attractive. He has to be realistic. And if he insists, he needs to earn more money, and have his own material things. Somebody will bite. Just not me.

And it’s not because my level of attractiveness has fed my ego.

It’s because men have taught me to know my worth and what I deserve. Men taught me, that if a man has less than a woman and she dates him, that man knows a woman’s self esteem is really low. And he will take full advantage of it.

This goes into astrology. When the seventh house is in opposition to the first house. The house of self. Self worth.

So, I said to my “friend”, just to see what he would say.

Me: Do you think that some men are mad at women?

Him: I don’t know. I don’t hate women.

Me: Do you think SOME men want women to suffer?

Him: (Silence)

Me: When SOME men say, they will date outside of their preferences, it’s my belief that men say it to hurt women.

Him: I don’t know. I don’t know.

My “friend” is mad at me. For not giving him a chance. And he wanted to hurt my feelings. I realized that there is a high probability that he is in love with me.

He hadn’t realized that I don’t have romantic feelings towards him therefore what he says, what he thinks and how he feels when he’s hurt, cannot hurt me.

He needs to really sit with himself. Because things bubble up from his subconscious mind, enters his conscience mind, then have him in his feelings. The reason why that happens is because he needs to let go.

Neptune conjunct Jupiter in Pisces has been teaching the collective to face their fears, face how they feel and then let go. Certain aspects will add the lesson of spiritual boundaries. Meaning, what’s going on that’s triggering anger, depression, and/or anxieties?? One has to get to the heart of the reason. Or simply put, the bottom of the reason. God is not leaving people high and dry to figure things out all by themselves. That’s why the bubbling from the subconscious mind happens.

These astronomical energies is pushing people towards their north node of purpose. One cannot fulfill their destiny with blocks. Your blessings will be blocked, your money will be blocked, and your spiritual gifts in which you need to fulfill your destiny will be blocked. The path needs to be cleared of any hindering emotions.

The one thing I will always remember from the lessons of the laws of attraction is that if you change your thoughts you change how you feel. You change how you feel and you can freely will the things that belong to you by birth right, to you.

In my conclusion, men don’t want to be “friends” with a woman. They either want the cat 🐱 or they want marriage.

To all of the men reading this, if you have a female “friend” that you are in love with, express yourself openly and directly. Don’t beat around the bush. If she says no, let go. End the friendship. You won’t change her mind in the same way that the girl whom you said NO to couldn’t change your mind.

xoxo

A Healthy Parent